It’s not uncommon to hear children use a variety of nicknames for their genitals. One of society’s most common norms is the use of slang words and silly names when referring to them. In fact, many families don’t use any names at all. While this may be a difficult topic for some to discuss, it’s important for caregivers to understand how and why it matters.
According to a study published in the American Journal of Sexuality Education, only 10% of children actually know the correct names for their genitalia. But why is this a big deal?
Even when it’s not the intention, using slang terminology for private body parts can send the message that genitals are shameful, bad, or naughty. If children feel embarrassed about naming their body parts, they may be less likely to confide in a trusted adult if someone touches them inappropriately. Sexual predators rely on secrecy and a lack of communication between children and their caregivers to maintain control.
Caregivers should begin teaching children the proper names for their genitals as early and as often as possible, while also explaining that these are private body parts that should not be shown, touched, or photographed by anyone. Ideally, children should begin learning proper terminology around the time they start potty training; however, it is never too late to begin. Parents can use everyday moments such as bathing, diapering, and potty time to introduce these words. For older children, simply explain that you will use the correct terminology going forward. Even if children don’t adopt the language right away, consistency will help their vocabulary develop over time.
When children have the right words, they are better equipped to protect themselves and speak up when something isn’t right