Tips for Safer Sleepovers

Tips for Safer Sleepovers

Sleepovers can be an exciting rite of passage for children. Staying safe during sleepovers has become a hot topic of debate among parents in recent years as child sexual abuse has received more awareness and attention. One thing we know for certain is that more than 90% of child abuse cases are perpetrated by someone known and trusted by the family. Just like the internet, sleepovers aren’t inherently bad, but they aren’t without risks – and education can be key in prevention. When kids and parents know the dangers and warning signs, they’re better equipped to stay safe. 

Consider these tips for a safe sleepover if you choose to allow them. 

1. Make sure you know and trust the adults, and that they will be home to supervise.
   A quick chat with the parents of the house to set expectations and get on the same page is a simple way to set boundaries and gauge your comfort level with leaving your child in their care. Make sure you know who will be supervising, what the house rules and sleeping arrangements are, and how to reach each other. 
2. Know who will be there while your child is there.
   Will older children be present? Their friends? An uncle? Always know who will be there in the home – whether they live there or not. Children can be abused by older children, so don’t overlook peers.
3. Have frequent conversations with your child.
   Boundaries should be a regular topic of conversation throughout a child’s life.  Make sure they know their “no touch areas”, the warning signs of grooming, and feel confident in how to navigate those situations should they occur.
4. Check in on your child and allow them to call you.
   If your child has their own cell phone, make sure they have access to it and that it’s fully charged. Most importantly, make sure your child knows they can call you at any time, for any reason
5. Designate a family password.
    A family password gives your child an easy out and can help get them out of dangerous or uncomfortable situations without raising suspicion. If your child feels unsafe but is afraid to say so on the phone, they can just say the code word so you know to pick them up immediately.

A little planning can help make sleepovers a positive experience. Keep conversations open and remind your child that you’re always there to listen and help.